Today brought some welcome good news. We can ship our embryos from the West Coast to the East Coast without engaging in a lengthy process with the NY state health department. The department very recently (within the last week) gave effect to a new policy that will not require us to obtain an exemption letter (the estimated time line on that was anywhere from two weeks to over three months).
The LP and I fastidiously signed and filled out many consent and waiver forms (you have to promise not to sue the people who tell you they could lose or destroy your babies-in-waiting if you want to use a shipping company to do this – and we need a shipping company to do this given that we do not live on either the West Coast or the East Coast) and I have handed over my credit card information. Now I wait to find out when we can expect wee Gertrude and Alice (I decided not to go with Ernie and Bert even though those embryos resulted in a successful pregnancy; I felt like I was encroaching on her territory after she sweetly told me she’d named her embryos after the cute muppet pair) to make their way across the continent.
In the meantime… I have been trying to find a skilled endometriosis surgeon in my neck of the woods. I am of the view that having the laparoscopy before any more IVF treatments would be prudent. The LP is scared of me having surgery and would rather we try without it. The first time he witnessed me having surgery (D&C number one in January 2011), the surgeon came and told him my blood pressure had dropped dangerously low and they had to give me fluids intravenously and therefore I would have to spend the night in the hospital (despite the earlier advice that I could leave shortly after leaving recovery).
The second time he waited for me to get out recovery after surgery (from D&C number two in September 2013), things were better because I told the doctor about my reaction to general anaesthetic. But then my blood pressure was checked in the room they carted me into post-recovery and it was something along the lines of 80/50 and the nurse checking on me nearly lost it. I explained that my “normal” blood pressure ranges between 87-95 over 60-65 so this was not a big deal. She looked skeptical but when I proved that I could make my way to and from the little girl’s room and that I was not losing buckets of blood, she approved our departure.
In addition to the blood pressure, I puke when waking up from under general anaesthetic. I should say I dry heave because of course you are never allowed to eat before these events if they are scheduled. The anti-nausea meds work for this little problem so it has never been a huge concern for me. I am not worried about the idea of having surgery. I am worried about wasting another embryo because I did not have the surgery and maybe that could have toned down my immune issues and made the difference.
Today I asked the Universe and God if the news about the removal of the exemption letter requirement was a sign that I should follow the LP’s preference and try the FET using Dr. Braverman’s immune protocol without doing the laparoscopy for endometriosis diagnosis/excision first. I asked for a sign as I was walking to meet the LP to sign a number of consents related to the embryo transportation. I found myself staring at a decorative plaque in the window of the nearby flower shop.
The sign read “IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR A SIGN THIS IS IT”.
Really, Universe? Just like that? Is that my intuition clubbing me over the head or mere coincidence?
On a serious note, I’d love to hear what you would do in my shoes. So… what would you do?