Little light, tiny boy, you were my first. You were supposed to be born in early August. You left us on New Year’s Day instead. I think about you often. As you know we have given our second living son your first name as his second. You are buried in a planter in our front yard. Remember when I dragged that heavy thing, weighing almost half as much as I do, from our old home to the one in which we now live? I remember you. And my love for you lives on always, not only on days like today dedicated to infant and pregnancy loss.
Little spark, you were with us only briefly and some doctors said you didn’t count. But you did. I remember you. You were wanted. You too were loved.
Miracle Toddler, you broke the spell. Notwithstanding every complication my body threw in your way you triumphed. You have lived through the six losses that followed you. And the one who survived. Your little brother. You were my first miracle who lived. I will love you forever and in all ways.
Tiny gift, you were welcomed with such hope. My heart broke with a newfound anguish when you disappeared. Too soon. Forever too soon. I remember you.
Little bean, I was so excited to know you. I dreamed of holding you. I dreamed of you being my best holiday gift ever. But then you too were gone. Too soon. My heart died a little more with your passing.
Oh, Mandy, then there was you. You were our holiday and special occasion baby. Conceived on vacation. We first saw your heart beating on my birthday. I watched you grow and knew you would be my beautiful baby girl. You were so brave. You fought hard. But it was not enough. I cried begging the doctor to let me see you one more time, fearing you too had slipped away. Knowing something was wrong. And something was. So dreadfully wrong. The Miracle Toddler cried with me as I mourned your passing. Time and time again. I am so sorry I lost you Mandy. I remember you. I always will. You will forever be the daughter I will never get to hold.
Tiny button, you were our first IVF baby. Your time with us was brief but our love and longing for you deep and plentiful. I remember you.
Dearest whisp, you were with us for Valentine’s Day and the weeks that followed. And then you were gone. Just like that. I remember you.
Wee Hope, you were my Mother’s Day baby. I traveled far, yearned long and worked hard for you. I did everything right. I thought it would be enough. How wrong I was. You taught us so much. You are missed. And I remember you.
Little E, you landed in my womb alongside baby Azulito. Little Blue. He lived. You did not although you tried and for that I thank you and, little E, I remember you.
Baby Azulito, you are finally here. You beat every odd and overcame every obstacle my immune system erected in your path. I could not be more grateful. I will remember you in all ways and forever.
Though my heart is heavy, my eyes burning and my cheeks stained as I write this, little loves of mine, I know I am fortunate and filled with gratitude for the two of you who fill my arms, day and night. I love each and every one of you. And I remember you even when and even if virtually everyone else has long forgotten most of you.
October 15, 2015 is a day dedicated to pregnancy and infant loss remembrance and awareness where I live. I typically have a hard time writing on days like this. My feelings are complicated and it is difficult not to feel guilty when I think of others still struggling and facing today and everyday with empty arms. Yet my lost loved ones deserve to be remembered. And so I write. To all of you reading this who are struggling with infertility and or surviving pregnancy or infant loss please know my thoughts and compassion are with you.
A beautiful tribute to all your children. Sending you love today and always
Beautifully written. Love to you, my friend. ā¤
I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again. You are a wonderful mother! A mother of many. How precious that your children know you remember them as clearly as they remember you. As long as you live, and beyond, their lives will have impact on earth through this remembrance.
I really wish you were in Apt 42, eating lobster and/or Indian. Miss your brilliance and compassion.
So beautiful. ā¤
Beautiful. Thinking about you…
Wonderfully written, brings tears to my eyes. All of your children are lucky to have you as their mother.
This is so beautiful it made me cry. A lot. š
This is so beautiful it made me cry. A lot š
Me too. Thank you.
So beautifully written, this tribute to all of your children. It broke my heart as I read it – a mother’s love never wanes. ā¤
So lovely.
So very touching. They are lucky to have such a loving mother in you.
Beautiful. Reading this through blurry tears…. Love you as always, my dear friend.
(and sorry to be so late seeing this and commenting….)
Thank you so much. I’ve been thinking of you and Peanut. And Bunny of course but sending love and peace for you and the big sister.
Thank you. š
This is so beautiful! xx
Thank you very much. I’ve missed you!
Bless ya! I know, I come and go depending on where my head is at. It is nice to read about your success along side the reality of parenting too. All those hopes and dreams don’t mean it is all a bed of roses out the other side. xxx